Wife Magnet Secret #2
The Secret To Understanding Your Wife, And Getting In Touch With Her Feminine Side…
One of my students once said, “I wish my wife came with a user’s manual.”
Ever wished you could make more sense of women–especially your wife?
Guess what. You can.
By applying Wife Magnet Secret #2: Feminese.
If you’ve ever tried to “reason” with your wife…
If you’ve ever argued with your wife…
If you’ve ever tried to convince your wife of something through logical arguments or through ethical arguments…
If you’ve ever told your wife she “should” do such-and-such a thing…
You need to…
STOP!
Just stop.
Stop arguing with your wife. Stop trying to convince her of anything. Stop “shoulding” all over her. Stop relating to her in terms of logic or ethic.
Rather, relate to her in terms of emotion, and understand her language: Feminese.
“Feminese” is what I call the language of emotion.
Women are emotional creatures, and you have to relate to them in terms of emotion. Anything else will leave both of you banging your heads against the wall in frustration. Been there?
Now I’m not saying to “get in touch with your feminine side,” as so much of the marriage advice out there will tell you. (I don’t want you to become feminine. In fact, I want you to become more masculine, as you’ll see in Wife Magnet Secret #4.) I’m saying get in touch with her feminine side. Not yours.
You already learned in Wife Magnet Secret #1 to treat everything your wife does as a reaction to you. Now you need to learn that it’s an emotional reaction. So becoming fluent in Feminese means interpreting everything from your wife as an emotional reaction, as being driven by emotion…as an attempt to fulfill an emotional need.
So what are a woman’s emotional needs that drive her, anyway? (Note that men are also driven by emotional needs, but I’m focusing on women here.) In Wife Magnet, I’ve summarized a woman’s core emotional needs with the accronym: SECS.
- Safety
- Emotion
- Connection
- Significance
You need to become fluent in Feminese and understand how to read her SECSual needs, i.e. her emotional needs, and then respond accordingly to meet them.
As I say in The Magnet Creed:
39) Then Secret 2 is “Feminese™.” 40) Forget male “logic”; would you please! 41) Emotions are what drive her to 42) React the way she does to you. 43) It’s through emotion she expects, 44) For you to meet her need for SECS™.How To Read–And Meet–Your Wife’s Emotional Needs…
In my Wife Magnet programs, such as the Wife Magnet KickStart program, I teach you how to read which of the 4 SECSual needs is driving your wife. I also teach you how to respond accordingly.
I wrote a more detailed page elsewhere about how you can become fluent in “Feminese” and translate your wife’s SECSual needs into a happier her and a more irresistible you. Make sure you read all the way down for something very special, where I reveal the quickest way to achieving Wife Magnet Secret #2 and get the marriage transformation you’re looking for:
Click Here To Start Applying Wife Magnet Secret #2.
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Beautiful! Love the poem!
ME AND MY WIFE HAVE BEEN SEPERATED,for about 4 months,now she filed for divorce,and of course i did all the wrong things,begging,pleadind.now i am acting like i dont care, we have had a couple of lunch dates,that went well,i have ate dinner dinner there, she committed adultery, i kind of want her back,i love my family and miss them,tell me what to do
Doug,
I wish I had a little more time to answer your question in more detail.
I see your situation over and over, and it breaks my heart.
First of all, know that when a husband starts losing his wife…when his wife cheats on him or leaves him…it’s because his emotional pull on her–i.e. his Magnetic Attraction (Wife Magnet Secret #3)–simply isn’t strong enough.
So if you want your wife back, then you need to heighten your attractiveness, your Magnetic Attraction.
You’re right that pleading doesn’t work. That’s because it’s not consistent with Wife Magnet Secret #4, Masculine Development. What could pleading possibly do? By pleading, you’re simply confirming to her that you have no value. But what you really should be doing is BHV-ing–Becoming Higher Value. Who do you think is more Magnetically Attractive: a higher-value man, or a lower-value man?
So start BHVing. I guarantee you that if you learn my Wife Magnet system, you’ll naturally Become Higher Value, and your wife will be far more interested in you.
You say you’re *acting* like you don’t care. Acting doesn’t work well. It’s like a bandaid over a gaping wound. It doesn’t solve the problem. By Becoming Higher Value, you actually won’t care as much. You won’t need to act. You *should* care…but with balance.
Your life without your wife should be fulfilling enough that you’re not totally shattered without her. As I teach my clients, “Life Before Wife.” Once you’ve Become Higher Value, by using Wife Magnet, especially Secret #4, then you can focus on building Closeness with her (Wife Magnet Secret #6).
One last thing: an element of Wife Magnet Secret #4 is having clear Direction and Standards. Do you have clear Direction in your life? Do you know who you are, what you stand for, and where you’re headed? And do you know what your standards are that you have for your wife? If yes, then you’re probably on your way to Masculine Development. But I suspect the answer is no…because it’s usually guys that are missing Masculine Development (I call them “Charlie Chump”) who get cheated on and dumped.
As I mention in the Magnet Creed about Wife Magnet Secret #4:
“Without it, you will soon be dumped.
Without it, you’re just Charlie Chump.”
You said, “I kind of want her back.” Have you ever done my “Shades Exercise?” I teach it in my programs. It’ll help you determine your standards in your life and in your wife. And that’ll help you determine whether or not you do, in fact, want her back. The fact that you’re not even clear on whether or not you want her back is just not Magnetic, bro.
If you want my honest advice to you, then here it is:
You have some work to do. You have some soul-searching and some growth to do. Become more Magnetic.
The best way I know of for you to do that is to attend my Wife Magnet KickStart program. This isn’t a sales pitch, but rather a genuine advice to you. (If I didn’t care about your success and the success of your marriage, would I write such a long comment?) If I knew of a better solution for you, I’d tell you…and I wouldn’t have had to create the KickStart program.
I hope that serves you, bro.
Keep Your Wife Magnetized!
Jemal.
Thanks, Seeker.
The Magnet Creed came quite miraculously, as if I wasn’t the one composing it, as if it was just flowing through me. And it started in a very special place and finished in a very special place. A real blessing, thank God!
As I mention in it,
“This Creed came like a flash of grace,
From nowhere in a special place.”
I’ve yet to make The Magnet Creed available to the public. I’ve decided to give a copy of it as a bonus to everyone that attends the Wife Magnet KickStart program.
Keep Your Wife Magnetized!
Jemal.